Watch the Feeling, Not the Thought
Stop trusting what you tell yourself you believe. Elsie Lincoln Benedict says the thing plainly in How to Get Anything You Want: the feeling, not the thought, is your predominant attitude toward any person or task. Your real position on a thing is not the position you reasoned your way to. It is the one that shows up in your chest before reason arrives. You can think you want the big project. You can think you respect the new partner. You can think you are ready for the leap. And underneath all that thinking sits a feeling that disagrees — and the feeling is the one running your life. ...